An Year, passing me

I hear the fire crackers, the celebrations, the countdown and the excitement for the new year 2026. I hear and read people’s resolutions. Their posts, videos and everything around.

New year, has never settled well with me. It’s never that I am not grateful to ALLAH. Every year, as it comes to an end, a thought races my mind. All these years that I have lived, where do I stand in front my Rabb. All these years- that I had wasted, what good I had done in the past. Many people- the elderly, the youth and the children, passed away. Some due to health issues, some in accidents and some never woke up to a bright tomorrow, that they had planned before falling asleep.

I am grateful that Allah has blessed me with a guided (deen), healthy and capable life. But where do I stand, in utilising these blessings in the right manner? I am 28 and in shaa ALLAH hoping to live, with blessing of hidayah, health and aafiyah. Even if I subtract 12 years of my childhood. “16 years” is what I am accountable for, to Allah. What did I do of these “16 years”???. How many prayers have I missed, how many times I had chosen to do wrong, knowingly and unknowingly. How many times I did not repent. How many times was I not a good muslim. How many times I just scrolled my social media, doing nothing.

Each year (rough calculation), comes with 365 days. 16 years multiplied with 365 gives me 5,840 days. I cannot even guarantee myself, that I was an obedient muslim, a Muslim that pleased ALLAH, even for a day. When the day of judgment arrives, what am I going to answer for these 5,840 days.

Yes ALLAH is Ar-Rahmaan and Ar-Raheem. He is Al-Ghaffar. He is merciful and forgives. But ALLAH is also Al-Adl. He is just. If I were to be successful in my aqirah, in shaa ALLAH, indeed, it is because ALLAH chose to forgive me. But, he has all the rights to punish his creation too. And if ALLAH choses to punish me, (may allah forgive me aameen) he is just in his decision. I have wronged myself and nobodyelse.

Another year ahead, but I do not want to carry the old me and live the rest of my life, mindlessly. New year, has never and will never settle well within me. It’s not a celebration but a reality check of, a number of years have passed away, mindlessly, and how less of time we all have left. I hope every day, I become a better me, In deen and in duniya (in shaa ALLAH).

Milad Un Nabi- To celebrate or To Condemn

Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa baraktahu. All praise belongs to ALLAH and may peace and blessings be upon his messenger salalaahu alayhi wasallam. This article covers the following topics:

1. Good deeds and their conditions to make them acceptable.
2. Definition of Biddah and it’s harm. Concept of good biddah And how do we identify it?
3. Details of the date,month and year of birth and death of the prophet peace be upon him
4. History of Milad un nabi
5. Statements of the knowledgeable scholars regarding Mawlid
6. The Evil side of the celebration
7. How one can truly show their love to the prophet peace be upon him.
8. Conclusion
9. References

Good deeds and their conditions to make them acceptable.

Before diving into the main topic, let’s learn and understand, what is required for a Muslim, to have his/her deeds accepted by ALLAH.

Deeds that are considered, as an act of worship, are given 2 criteria, for them to be accepted.  Therefore, one must acknowledge the criteria and act accordingly.

1. Intention:
All the acts of worship, must be directed for the sake of ALLAH alone. Be it namaz, zakat, fasting, hajj, sadqa, dua, dhikar, hijab, umrah, voluntary acts etc. We learn the importance of intention in the following Hadith –

It was narrated from ‘Umar bin Al-Khattab that the Prophet said: “Actions are but by intentions, and each person will have but that which he intended. Thus, he whose emigration was for the sake of Allah and His Messenger, his emigration was for the sake of Allah and His Messenger, and he whose emigration was to achieve some worldly gain or to take some woman in marriage, his emigration was for that for which he emigrated.” Sunan an-Nasa’i 3794
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)

2. Prescribed manner:
All the acts, that are forms of worship to ALLAH, must be done in the prescribed manner (i.e. how it is taught in the Qur’an and sunnah).

One day Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) stood up to deliver sermon at a watering place known as Khumm situated between Mecca and Medina. He praised Allah, extolled Him and delivered the sermon and. exhorted (us) and said: Now to our purpose. O people, I am a human being. I am about to receive a messenger (the angel of death) from my Lord and I, in response to Allah’s call, (would bid good-bye to you), but I am leaving among you two weighty things: the one being the Book of Allah in which there is right guidance and light, so hold fast to the Book of Allah and adhere to it.
Sahih Muslim 2408a

Even if one criteria is not achieved, the act is nullified..

Example 1: if a person prays 5x a day, but with an intention to show off, then his deed is rendered.
Example 2 : if a person has an intention to worship ALLAH, but he says, he will pray 4 units of sunnah namaz instead of 2 units of sunnah, of fajar salah,  out of love for ALLAH and to be closer to him, then this act is rejected because we are prescribed to pray only 2 units of sunnah.

Definition of Biddah and it’s harm. Concept of good biddah. How do we identify actions that are biddah?

As a Muslim, one must acknowledge the fact that, we are servants of ALLAH. And as a servant, we worship Allah and seek means of his mercy, blessings and forgiveness, in the manner, which prescribed to us in the Qur’an and Sunnah. If any practice is stated to achieve either mercy, blessings and forgiveness of Allah but it has no proof from the Qur’an and sunnah, then it falls under the sin of inventing new things to the religion (i.e Biddah).

`A’ishah reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying: If any one introduces into this affair of ours anything which does not belong to it, it is rejected. Ibn `Isa said: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: If anyone practices any action in a way other than our practice, it is rejected. Sunan Abi Dawud 4606
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)

We do not need any additional practice, because alhamdulillah our religion, Islam, has been completed and chosen for us by ALLAH. ALLAH mentions in the Qur’an (sura maida, verse 3)

ٱلْيَوْمَ أَكْمَلْتُ لَكُمْ دِينَكُمْ وَأَتْمَمْتُ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعْمَتِى وَرَضِيتُ لَكُمُ ٱلْإِسْلَـٰمَ دِينًۭا ۚ فَمَنِ ٱضْطُرَّ فِى مَخْمَصَةٍ غَيْرَ مُتَجَانِفٍۢ لِّإِثْمٍۢ ۙ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ غَفُورٌۭ رَّحِيمٌۭ

Today I have perfected your faith for you, completed My favour upon you, and chosen Islam as your way. But whoever is compelled by extreme hunger—not intending to sin—then surely Allah is All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

Therefore, this comes to us clear that, we do not need any additional practice. ALLAH is all knowing. He has given us guidelines, in every single aspect of our lives. Not a single aspect , is left to us in sixes and sevens. We do not need any modifications to fit in the modern times. What was conveyed to us via nabi salalaahu alayhi wasallam, the rules, the regulations, the conduct, the acts of worship etc, everything remains the same until the day of judgment.

When a person supports a biddah, he/she must know that this will indirectly refer to any of the four claims-

1. Allah missed out to convey us on a certain practice  (astagfirullah) which is beneficial to us in deen and dunya
2. Prophet peace be upon him failed to convey us (nauzubillah) a certain practice.
3. We know the religion better than the prophet peace be upon him and the sahabas and the four caliphates and the four imams, and we will act on what we perceive as beneficial to us.

4. The deen was falling short and therefore, these practices are important to make it complete

All of these are harsh claims. And this is why the sin of biddah is grave.

“BUT WHAT IS THE HARM? WE ARE NOT RECITING OTHER THAN THE QUR’AN. WE ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING HARAM (E.G LISTENING TO MUSIC ETC. WE ARE RECITING THE QUR’AN AND OTHER DUAS”

This is the statement, most people make, when they are told that a certain act is biddah. The only harm that they commit, is the sin of adding a new thing to the religion, which has no proof from the Qur’an and sunnah, thinking it is beneficial (i.e.to gain reward and love from ALLAH)

Shaykh Ahmed Rumi (rahimuallah) writes-
“Biddat is an action, started by Shaitan. Shaitaan says, when I broke the back of children of Adam , due to weight of sins. They broke my back, due to their excessive repentance and seeking forgiveness from Allah azzawajjal. I then created such a sin for them, due to which they would not repent. This is that innovations in religion, Which is regarded as worship. For this very reason, people of knowledge stated that, biddat is regarded as being worse than haram acts. This is because when a person who performs a biddat, perceives he is doing something good. In reality, he is going against the Ways of Allah azzawajjal and his nabi salalaahu alayhi wasallam and regards an evil act as good (Source: Majaalisul Abrar pg 183)

We are also warned of the serious consequence in the aqira, due to the sin of practicing biddah

Narrated `Abdullah: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “I am your predecessor at the Lake-Fount (Kauthar) and some men amongst you will be brought to me, and when I will try to hand them some water, they will be pulled away from me by force whereupon I will say, ‘O Lord, my companions!’ Then the Almighty will say, ‘You do not know what they did after you left, they introduced new things into the religion after you.'” (Sahih al-Bukhari 7049)

Think of it, if this was any beneficial to us, it would have been told to us by ALLAH azzawajjal through the prophet peace be upon him. The sahabas, who learnt islam from the prophet peace be upon him, being next to him, living with him, would have practiced such acts, much better than us.

If ALLAH azzawajjal did not command us such and the best of the humans (i.e prophet peace be upon him) did not practice it. Then, how come we, claim biddat to be beneficial?

Concept of good biddah:

People who are in favour of newly invented practices, claim that Mawlid and events similar to it, are a good biddah and good biddah is a part of Islam and state the below hadith, to support their view:

Abdur Rahman bin ‘Abdul Qari said, “I went out in the company of ‘Umar bin Al-Khattab one night in Ramadan to the mosque and found the people praying in different groups. A man praying alone or a man praying with a little group behind him. So, ‘Umar said, ‘In my opinion I would better collect these (people) under the leadership of one Qari (Reciter) (i.e. let them pray in congregation!)’. So, he made up his mind to congregate them behind Ubai bin Ka’b. Then on another night I went again in his company and the people were praying behind their reciter. On that, ‘Umar remarked, ‘What an excellent Bid’a (i.e. innovation in religion) this is; but the prayer which they do not perform, but sleep at its time is better than the one they are offering.’ He meant the prayer in the last part of the night. (In those days) people used to pray in the early part of the night.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 2010)

Every hadith, has a context and a meaning, that needs to be understood in the correct way. The word (good biddah) mentioned in this ahadith, is in the linguistic sense, not in the shar’i sense.
In addition to this, The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) led his companions in praying Taraweeh for a while, then he stopped doing that, lest that become obligatory on them. The Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them) continued to pray it separately during the life of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and after his death, until ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allah be pleased with them) gathered them behind one imaam as they used to pray behind the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). This was not an innovation introduced into the religion.

Another matter that people talk about, to support the concept of GOOD BIDDAH, is the compilation of the Qur’an. Compiling the Quran into one book has a basis in Islam, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had commanded that the Quran be written down, but it was scattered, so the Sahaabah compiled it in one volume so as to protect and preserve it.

How do we identify that a certain act or a practice is a biddah?

When we are conveyed that a specific act is a form of worship to ALLAH, check if it aligns with Qur’an and Sunnah. Ask the scholars, who teach Islam holding onto the Qur’an and sunnah. Alhamdulillah we have internet access. We can go through lectures, fatwas and saying of scholars like shaykh ul Islam ibn tahmiyyah, shaikh al albani etc to gain the information.

If the act aligns with the Qur’an and Sunnah, go ahead. If it doesn’t align, then stay away from it.

Details of the date,month and year of birth and death of the prophet peace be upon him

a) Year: It was the Year of the Elephant.

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “There is no difference of opinion concerning the fact that he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was born in Makkah, and that his birth was in the Year of the Elephant.” (Zad al-Ma’ad fi Hadiy Khayr al-‘Ibad, 1/76)

b) Day: Prophet peace be upon him was born of Monday.

Abu Qatadah al-Ansari (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was asked about fasting on Mondays and he said: “That is a day on which I was born and on it my mission began – or Revelation came to me.” (Narrated by Muslim, 1162)

c) Date: The date of birth and month, however, has different of opinions. What appears to us to be the case is that the strongest opinion concerning the birth of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) is that he was born between the eighth and the twelfth of Rabee‘ al-Awwal.

The Egyptian astronomer Mahmoud Basha (d. 1885 CE) who was well-versed in astronomy, geography and mathematics, and wrote several books based on his research stated that it was on the morning of Monday 9th Rabee‘ al-Awwal, which corresponds to 20th April 571 CE. That corresponds to the first year following the elephant incident. He was born in the house of Abu Talib in Shi‘ab Banu Hashim.” (Nur al-Yaqeen fi Seerat Sayyid al-Mursaleen (p. 9). See also ar-Raheeq al-Makhtum, p. 41)

Dr. Muhammad at-Tayyib an-Najjar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

Perhaps the reason for this difference of opinion is that when he was born, no one expected that he would attend such a status. For that reason, he did not live in the spotlight from the beginning of his life. When Allah decreed that the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) should begin to convey His message forty years after he was born, people began to seek out whatever memories they had about this Prophet, and they asked one another about every detail of his life. They were helped in that by what the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) himself narrated about incidents that he had experienced from his birth, as well as the reports narrated by his Companions and those who had also gone through those events with him.

At that time the Muslims began to collect everything that they had heard about the life story of their Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) in order to transmit it to the people down throughout the ages.” (Al-Qawl al-Mubeen fi Seerat Sayyid al-Mursaleen, p. 78)

Note: The most well-known view for the death of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) occurred on 12th Rabee‘ al-Awwal 11 AH.

History of Milad un nabi

For every single matter, there has to be the origin. As to when it was started, who initiated its celebration. If celebrating Mawlid/Milad Un Nabi, was not done by the prophet peace be upon him, neither did he command his beloved companions and wives to do it. And it was not proven from the early generations, then where and when did this practice begin?

The bidah practice of celebrating milad un Nabi was not established amongst the ummah after the time of prophet peace be upon him until 6 centuries were passed (i.e 600 years). This practice was established and was performed by a ruling king- MUZAFARUDEEN IBN ARBAL (died 630H) and his friend, who was worldly oriented scholar, by the name IBN WAHIYA ABUL KHATTAB (died 633H) in the Muslim area Mosul, Iraq in 604H (DOWLUL ISLAM PG 104)

Imam Ahmed bin Muhammad Misri Maliki (rahimuallah) writes- “ That the king (MUZAFARUDEEN IBN ARBAL) used to tell the scholars in his time that, whatever ijtihad he would dictate, should be adopted and nothing else was to be followed. He managed to select a group of scholars who were inclined to Duniya, to support his view. In this way he started to celebrate milad un Nabi and he was the first amongst Muslim kings, to create this innovation (Al Qawlul Mu’tamit)

To propagate and spread this biddah further, the king would utilise hundreds and thousands of Dinars from the Muslim treasury. Allamah Dhabi (rahimuallah) stated- “Every year he would spend 30,000 dinar on this event. To try to establish proof of this celebration, he commisioned a book written by IBN WAHIYA and for this effort, he paid IBN WAHIYA, 1000 dinar in modern day times (DOWLUL ISLAM PG 103-104)

This celebration is nothing but a way to dupe people, who have little knowledge of deen.

Statements of the knowledgeable scholars regarding Mawlid

1. Imam Jalauddin Suyuti (rahimuallah) had to state: ” The permissibility of Mawlud is not established anywhere from the Qur’an and Sunnah. It is only Qiyas (Fe Amalil Mawlood)
2. Alahmah Abdur Rahman Maghribi rahimuallah writes in his Fatawa- “Verily, performing of the milad (as celebration) is a biddah. There is no evidence that the prophet peace be upon him, the rightly guided companions, or A’ima Mujtahideen practiced upon this themselves or ordered others to practice upon it” (Fe Shiratil Ilahiyah)
3. Imam Ahmed bin Muhammad Misri Maliki rahimuallah writes- “The scholars of the four schools of Fiqh are all unanimous upon the evil of this action of Milad” (Al Qawlul Mu’tamit)

The Evil side of the celebration

In addition to being a grave sin (i.e. A biddah), celebrating Mawlid and any biddah, has always lead muslims away from the sunnah.

Some people have exaggerated this celebration to an extent that, many sins take place,in addition to leaving the sunnah. People rally out on streets (julus), there is free mixing of men and women, some people calling this day as an “EID”, praying an Eid salah on Mawlid etc

One must consider the below points before validating this sin as a means of gaining reward, closeness from Allah and a means to show love to the prophet peace be upon him.
1. Celebrating the birthday of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is an imitation of the Christians, because they celebrate the birth of the Messiah (peace be upon him). Imitating them is extremely haram. The hadeeth tells us that it is forbidden to imitate the kuffaar, and we are commanded to differ from them. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them” (narrated by Ahmad, 2/50; Abu Dawood, 4/314). And he said, “Be different from the mushrikeen” (narrated by Muslim, 1/222, no. 259) – especially with regard to things that are the symbols or rituals of their religion.
2. Besides being bid’ah and an imitation of the Christians, both of which are haram, celebrating the birthday of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is also a means that leads to exaggeration and excess in venerating him, which even goes as far as calling upon him (making du`a to him) and seeking his help, instead of calling upon Allah, as happens now among many of those who observe the bid`ah of the Mawlid, when they call upon the Messenger instead of Allah, and ask him for support, and sing qaseedahs (odes) of shirk praising him, like Qaseedat al-Burdah etc. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) forbade going to extremes in praising him, as he said: “Do not extol as the Christians extolled the son of Maryam. For I am just His slave, so say, the slave of Allah and His Messenger” (narrated by al-Bukhari, 4/142, no. 3445; al-Fath, 6/551)
3. Observing the innovation of the Prophet’s birthday opens the door to other kinds of bid’ah and being distracted by them from the Sunnah. Hence you find that the innovators are very active when it comes to bid’ah and very lazy when it comes to the Sunnah. They have split into various groups, each of which commemorates the anniversary of its imaam’s birth, such as the births of al-Badawi, Ibn ‘Arabi, al-Dasooqi and al-Shaadhili. No sooner do they end the celebration of one birthday but they start the celebration of another. This results in exaggeration concerning these dead people and others, and in calling upon them instead of Allah, believing that they can bring benefit and cause harm, until they deviate from the religion of Allah and go back to the religion of the people of the Jaahiliyyah

How one can truly show their love to the prophet peace be upon him.

The only way a lover can prove his love, is by obeying his beloved. By not going against the command of the beloved. By ensuring that he doesn’t act or say anything that can disrespect or hurt the beloved.

Similarly, the only way we can show our love and affection to the prophet peace be upon him, is by following his commands and not going against it.

How many of us know so much about a favourite sports star, actor/ actress, a comic or a novel. Ask yourself, if you truly love the prophet peace be upon, do you know about his seerah? He (peace be upon him) commanded us to hold onto the Qur’an and sunnah. How well are we practicing?

As  they say, Actions speak louder than words. Our actions must speak our love for the prophet peace be upon. Learning and implementing the Qur’an and sunnah, should be our aim.

Conclusion:

From where I am (i.e. India) I have observed that many people have followed these practices blindly, since ages. Only because the elders of their time, told them to do so. I don’t say that elders are always wrong. But, I do say, they can be wrong too. Nobody corrected them then, and this has passed down to generations. Learning the Qur’an and sunnah from the righteous scholars, who stick to the teachings of the 3 best generations, is very important.. No words of our elders, or even any ustaadah, or peer or wali is above the words of Allah and nabi salalaahu alayhi wasallam. When the nabi salalaahu alayhi wasallam has conveyed us what ALLAH has commanded, then no statement of others, hold weight

Nobody amongst us, can love the prophet peace be upon like the sahabas and the wives of the prophet peace be upon him. We cannot claim that this celebration is out of love and respect or Out of showing our gratitude to ALLAH, that he sent prophet peace be upon him as our leader. The wives of the prophet peace be upon him and the sahabas (may allah have mercy on them) gave up everything they had for the love of Allah and for the love of prophet peace be upon him. When they did not celebrate the birth of the prophet peace be upon him, to show their love and gratitude then, how can we, who barely leave our sins, can celebrate such a practice and claim our love for him (peace be upon him).

If you and I, truly love the prophet peace be upon him, the. we must ensure we learn and follow the Qur’an and Sunnah as much as one can. Avoid sin, shirk and biddah and seek Allah’s forgiveness and guidance. Complete our obligations as a Muslim and towards one another. Refrain from harming others with words or actions.

May ALLAH guide us to the straight path and protect us and our families and generations to come from deviations and going astray aameen.

Refrences:

1. IslamQA (Ques no: 249, Article: is celebrating the prophet’s birthday allowed in Islam? )
2.https://www.scribd.com/document/218887366/The-Reality-of-Celebrating-Eid-Milad-Un-Nabi-Pbuh
3. Sunnah.com for hadith

Tug of War: Working Mothers vs Stay at home mom

Guilt never ends. It only ends when you & I do not allow other people’s words and actions to affect us. It is on us, how we allow, perceive and reciprocate to everything that is said to us. An elephant walking on the road, is not bothered by the barking of the dog.

Assalamualikum wa rahmatullahi wa baraktahu everyone reading this. This article is very close to my heart. Being a mother now, alhamdulillah, and watching other mothers, I truly relate to some of the emotional and physical struggles, a woman is put through. No woman can take the pain knowingly, with all the happiness, except, if it’s the birth of her baby.

There is always a tug of war, as to who is the better mother. Working Mothers or the stay at home mothers. Society is always there to taunt and haunt a woman. You can be working, and they will just swiftly comment- “How could she leave her kids?” And If you are a stay at mother, the society says- “What does she even do sitting at home all day?”.

We need to learn that we cannot be in everyone’s good books. Let alone society, even family & friends. But as long as you are doing best for your children- Ensuring they are growing up with the right values, focussing on their health and development, spending time with them etc, within the boundaries of Shariah, you are doing amazing. Be it a working mother or a stay at home. It doesn’t matter much.

Do you know the guilt of each particular here? I’ll share it here. A working mother is always guilty for not being able to spend quality time with her kids. She’s guilty for not being able to watch her kids grow, just like a stay at home mom. She envies the other, for having the luxury of being with kids and spending the time with them day & night, which she cannot buy from the money she is currently earning. She is afraid, what if when the kids grow up and they don’t have much of an emotional attachment with the parent, because the mother was at work.

Whilst a stay home thinks as follows. In most cases, She’s undervalued, she’s not appreciated, she’s labelled *just a house wife*, only because, she doesn’t get paid for what she’s doing for everyone in the family. She feels helpless, due to lack of financial freedom, that a working mother has. Her education seems to be a waste of money. She feels bad when she isn’t able to buy anything for the kid. She’s afraid that she will only remain *just a house wife* even for her child. What if the child grows up one day and asks- “What have you done for me?”

It is said, grass is greener on the other side. But, grass can be greener if we focus on the role we play.

And the biggest guilt, both stay at home and working mothers are, is not being able to take time out to worship ALLAH enough. Remember, every action which is beneficial, when done for the sake of ALLAH becomes ibadah (worship). We need to understand that, intentions matter, even in our daily chores. Apart from the obligations, when we incorporate our daily chores, with an intention to do everything for Allah, we will be rewarded in shaa ALLAH.

I heard a lecture about women, by dr.haifaa younus. She said- “Look where you are today in life, and think how ALLAH wants me to serve him. How he wants me to worship him”. Look at yourself today, and think of doing your best to serve ALLAH, by performing your obligations towards him & towards people.

Remember dear mother’s, as long as you are not neglecting your child’s religious, physical, emotional and financial needs, as long as you are there for your child, you are an amazing mother. Alhamdulillah.

You may still feel the hole in your heart, believing that you are not doing enough. Know and accept that, You are not perfect. We tend to miss some or other. To do your best, this is what is required. And this is what, Allah wants us to do. Not just as a mother, but even as a Muslimah.

Assalamualikum wa rahmatullahi wa baraktahu.

Ammi ko samjhne lagi hu mai…

Apne ammi ko samajhne lagi hu mai.

Jannat uske kadmo mai kyun rakhi hai Allah ne, ya baat jaan-ne lagi hu mai.

Bahuth khafa hoti thi, Jab choti thi.

Q ke khana, woh sabke akhir mai khaati thi. Thoda thanda hi sahi, par akele hi khati thi.

Islye nhi khaya karti thi ke,  khana unhe mere sath pasand nhi tha. Bas islye nhi khaa paati thi ke, sabko parosna jo tha. Aur agar awwaal bhaith bhi jaaye, toh sukoon se kaha khaya jaaye.

Nadaan thi, toh samajh nhi ata tha ke, ammi ki aediya q phati hui hoti thi? Apne aedi ko dekhti toh mulayam thi, par ammi ki aediya itni saqt q???

Ab pata chala ke, ammi ne suba se lekar rat tak sabka khyal karne mai bhaagam-bhaagi ki, islye toh aediya mulayam na rahi.

Ammi jab jhoot kehti ki unhe kuch nhi khana hai ya unhone kha liya unka hissa, toh mai samajh jaati thi. Par khane Mai kyu  sharmana woh samajh nhi paati thi..

Woh sharmaati kaha thi. Sabko Kam na padhe, islye apne hisse ke sath samjhota kiye jaati thi..

Sawal par sawal karti thi mai, ke jab bimaar ho toh kuch waqt araam q nhi karti. Ghar ke baaki farzand kar lenge na..

Woh araam karegi toh baakiyo ko chubhegi, unki izzat par khanjar na chale, islye toh woh soti nahi thi..

Itna sab hone par, ammi ki masoomiyat aur sile rehmi kaise na gayi, ye bahuth sochti thi..

Ab samajh aaya ke woh toh Allah ke liye, sabar aur bardaasht dono hi kar leti thi.

Khudko kho kar, usne humey ek muqaam tak pahunchaya hai.

Allah se dua hai ke, hum marte  dum Tak har tareeqe se ammi ki khidmat aur khayal kare, bas itna qabil baney

Apne ammi ko samajhne lagi hu mai.

Jannat uske kadmo mai kyun rakhi hai Allah ne, ya baat jaan-ne lagi hu mai…

Under the rubble

I complained about my life and then I looked at the people under the rubble

I was saddened that I wasn’t able to purchase the dress I loved online. But then I saw the people of rubble, wearing the worn out

I was upset, looking at my wardrobe, all the worn clothes inside. And then I saw people of rubble, radiantly smiling and proudly wearing, whatever clothes were left in their closet.

I was moody to eat what was served on the table to me. Then I saw the people of rubble, happily eating a dry piece of bread

I got frustrated with the little ones troubling me around, and then I saw a mother holding the corpse of the baby but never complained about the same.

I fought with my relatives & friends, over matters that could be waved aside. And then I saw the people of rubble, not even a complaint with their near and dear and bidding them goodbye forever.

I complained to ALLAH, for every minor inconvenience. Then I saw the people of rubble saying alhamdulillah, for each and every second of their life.

KEY TO HAPPINESS

Well, some people think money is the key. But even the richest of richest, sleeps unrest, worrying about “what if I loose everything?”. Some people claim, the key is beauty. But even the most beautiful, ages. Some people think it’s power. But, it descends from one to another.

The recipe is simple. It is by being Thankful to ALLAH and his blessings. To be in content with what ALLAH has decreed upon us and to be patient in difficult times with a firm beleive that, Allah’s help is near. How do we know this? ALLAH mentioned in the Qur’an (14:7)-

*And remember when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will certainly give you more. But if you are ungrateful, surely My punishment is severe*

That’s all it takes for a Muslim to be happy- “Be thankful in every situation”. And not just happiness, Allah has promised to give us more, if we are thankful to him.. subhanallah!! No matter how one is rich or famous or beautiful or in strength, contentment is only from ALLAH.

Say “Alhamdulilah” during your good times and “Alhamdulillah ala kulli haal” in your difficult times..Remember this recipe and your life will be a dessert 🍪 (in shaa ALLAH)

Change for the sake of ALLAH

Is it easy? Will people judge me? Call me out for my past sins? Will I lose my loved ones? What if, I still fail in my aqira? Is this a show-off? What if I quit in between?….

These are all the questions and even more that comes in the mind of a person who is fearing to take that *ONE STEP* in the way of ALLAH, to change one self and to become what pleases ALLAH subhaanahuwataala.

Let me give you a reality check. Yes, The path of righteousness is not easy (Especially the times we are living in). But Jannah is worth all the efforts, difficulties and sacrifices (in shaa ALLAH).

It is only ALLAH who can make our difficulties, easy on us. Once you take step 1, sincerely towards ALLAH, in shaa ALLAH, ALLAH will eventually bring you ease and joy.

There is a beautiful Ahadith, that  should motivate all of us, to take that ONE INTIAL STEP- *Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “………………and if he comes to Me walking, I go to him running.’ (Sahih al-Bukhari 7405).*

Don’t be afraid of the reactions and comments. Remember, what matters is how we obey Allah by being sincere towards him. One day, we shall all leave this world. Lying in the grave, we wouldn’t want to think to ourselves- “It was foolish of me to think about people around me, to worry about my reputation and I did nothing for my aqira , untill death took me away”.

Don’t be your own enemy, by following desires, fantasies, committing sins and forgetting the duties and responsibilities that ALLAH has given us. Remember, this life can be lived with regrets. But not the hereafter life.

Seek help from ALLAH, keep your intentions sincere, Avoid sinning as much as you can, Stay among those who are righteous, Use your time and each and every blessing efficiently.

You do not have to be perfect, you just have to be sincere and consistent.

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Deeds

When I read these lines, there is one particular verse, I recall. For a reader who understands it, knows that the verse makes the reader both happy & hopeful but also, anxious & fearful.

*Allah says in the Qur’an, Surah An-Nahl, Verse 111*

*يَوْمَ تَأْتِي كُلُّ نَفْسٍ تُجَادِلُ عَن نَّفْسِهَا وَتُوَفَّي كُلُّ نَفْسٍ مَّا عَمِلَتْ وُهُمْ لاَ يُظْلَمُونَ*
“The day (that) everyone will come disputing in his own behalf; and everyone will be rewarded in full (for) what he has done, and they will not be dealt with unjustly.*

One can ask, how can this make a reader both happy and sad. I say, read it again and again… ALLAH tells us that on the day of judgement, “one is rewarded in full”, which means, the reward is both for good deeds and bad deeds. Nothing will be swept under the rug. Each and every single act done by us in every single second of life will be presented to us. May Allah forgive us Aameen

And further, “they will not be dealth with unjustly”. This means, even if a soul gets punished on the day of judgement, it is not because Allah is unjust (astagfirullah) it is because of our own choices that are to be blamed, which we made in this life. Yes, ALLAH is Ar-Rahmaan and Ar-Raheem but he is also Al-Adl (The just).

*Ibn Qayyim رحمه الله said: “Your nafs is just like your enemy, once it finds you serious, it obeys you. If it finds weakness from you, it will take you as a prisoner.” [Bada’i Al-Fawa’id, v. 3, p. 1202]*

We need to acknowledge our actions and hold ourselves accountable each day. Remember, ALLAH is merciful but ALLAH is also the one who can punish. La hawla wala quwwata illa billah.


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Misconceptions about Moharram

There are a number of misconceptions and innovated practices in the month of Muharram. Let’s understand each in the light of the Qur’an and Sunnah.

1. Day of Ashoora is about the death of husayn radiallahu Anhu:

This is one of the major misconceptions. Indeed the tragic death of husayn radiallahu Anhu shatters many hearts, even till this date but the day of Ashoora was established during the time of prophet peace be upon him, long before husayn radiallahu Anhu was born, and this is something that we learn from the Ahadith-
   *Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came to Madeenah and saw the Jews fasting on the day of ‘Ashura. He said, “What is this?” They said, “This is a good day, this is the day when Allah saved the Children of Israel from their enemy and Moosa fasted on this day.” He said, “We are closer to Moosa than you.” So he fasted on this day and told the people to fast. (Bukhari 1865)

2. Making special meals on the 10th of Muharram and distributing among the poor, seeking reward

3. Thinking Muharram and Safar are unlucky months for marriage

4. Hitting oneself to show grief

Our bodies are amanah from ALLAH. And that is why, Self harm is prohibited in Islam.
Al Bukhari and Muslim narrated that the Prophet peace be upon him said: “He who slaps his cheeks, tears his clothes and follows the ways and traditions of the Days of Ignorance is not one of us.”


Therefore we must avoid every act that can lead to misguidance and sin in shaa ALLAH. May ALLAH keep us amongst those who follow his path with good intentions and right manner (i.e in accordance to Qur’an and sunnah) Aameen

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Muharram

Alhamdulillah we have entered the new islamic year. We should be extremely grateful to ALLAH, that he allowed us to live another year. It is indeed, an opportunity and chance to change ourselves for the better and for the sake of ALLAH.

Al-Muharram is so called because it is a sacred (muharram) month; this further emphasizes its sanctity. The words of Allah (interpretation of the meaning): “so wrong not yourselves therein” [Surat at-Tawbah 9:36] mean: (do not wrong yourselves) in these sacred months, because doing so is a greater sin than at other times.

Ibn ‘Abbas said, concerning the words of Allah “so wrong not yourselves therein” (The command not to wrong yourself) applies in all months, then Allah singled out four months and made them sacred, and emphasized their sanctity, and He made sin during these months more grave, and He made righteous deeds and the reward thereof greater. Therefore, each one of us should strive to do good deeds as much as possible & refrain from sins too.

📌Here’s a little To-Do list for all of us:

1) Repentance from sins and changing ourselves for the sake of ALLAH:
New year, New me should not be just about improvising our physical & worldly aspects. Instead, it should begin with improving ourselves in our deen and preparing for the hereafter. Remember, it’s deen before duniya ALWAYS!!!

2) Prioritise Salah (No matter what):
Salah is indeed the first deed we will be held accountable for. Therefore, praying it on time and with khushu, must be our goal.

3. To fast, on the 9 & 10th/10th &11th of Muharram:

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The best fast after Ramadan is in the month of Allah al-Muharram .” (Narrated by Muslim, 1982)

4. Engage in lots of dhikar and recite the Qur’an with understanding


5. Give out lots of sadqa.

6. Make lots of dua to ALLAH
Seek his guidance, blessing and aafiyah until the end. Remember the entire ummah in your duas.

7. Avoid every kind of sin:
Be it major or minor, a sin is a sin. And avoiding it, should not be just this month, but every single day for the rest of our lives. In shaa ALLAH

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